Yeah, I'm struggling but do I really need this?
- Do you feel you are living in a home with secrets? Do you feel it is your responsibility to keep those secrets?
- Has someone shared adult information with you that made you feel uncomfortable?
- Have you felt hurt, embarrassed, or ashamed by someone’s sexual behavior?
- Do you feel no one would believe you if you shared what is going on in your home or other areas of your life?
- Do you hide or isolate? Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring friends home because of what is happening in the family?
- Are you concerned with someone’s improper use of the Internet, text messaging, or other media?
- Do you hesitate to speak to a family member or friend about problems you are experiencing because they seem to have their own problems, or you think they won’t understand?
- Do you find it difficult to recognize how you are feeling and how to express those feelings appropriately?
- Do you feel angry, lonely, fearful, and/or depressed?
- Do you feel you should be able to control other people’s behavior, or you should be able to do something to help them?
- Do you lie or make excuses to yourself about another person’s behavior? Do you sometimes lie to cover up your own mistakes?
- Have you felt confused about what is true and what is not true when talking with the sexaholic, or another person associated with the sexaholic?
- Has a family member or friend ever been in jail or other legal trouble because of his or her sexual behavior, or do you worry this could happen in the future?
- Do you have problems keeping up with schoolwork or other responsibilities due to problems at home?
- Do you stay in unhealthy friendships or dating relationships?
- Do you hide your feelings, or pretend you don’t care if you are sad, lonely, fearful, or angry?
- Do you ever try to escape from your feelings by using alcohol, food, drugs, social media, computer games, or other activities?
- Do you feel responsible for the safety or happiness of family members or friends?
- Are you always looking for someone’s approval or praise or feel the need to be perfect?
- When things are calm at home, do you anticipate or wait for problems to start again?
- Do you feel you have too much responsibility for someone your age?
- Do you tell yourself that what is going on with your family or friends isn’t that bad and is probably normal?
- Have you lost love and/or respect for one or both of your parents or other authority figures?
- Do you think if only your family members and friends acted differently, then you would be happy?
- Do you believe you are alone in your problems?
If you can answer “yes” to even some of these questions, you may find help in S-Ateen.
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